4 Tips To Give A Proper Prostate Massage

Have you heard of the male g-spot AKA the p-spot? If you and your partner are looking to spice things up (or you’re looking to add an extra layer to your masturbation sessions), consider a prostate massage.

A prostate massage can help enhance an erection, amplify an orgasm and even relax the rectum before anal sex. It’s key for both partners to understand that prostate massages have absolutely nothing to do with sexuality. Prostates are glands surrounded by nerve endings that give an intense orgasm unlike penile orgasms. If you’re a woman, you know the difference between a clitoral and a vaginal orgasm. Same concept.

But if you’ve never participated in or engaged in anal play, you may have some concerns or questions, and we’re here to help.

What is the prostate?

The prostate is a gland located between the penis and the bladder and is part of the male reproductive system. The gland is around the size of a walnut and secretes an enzyme called prostate-specific antigen, with the primary purpose to produce fluid that helps transport sperm. The prostate will squeeze the enzyme fluid into the urethra during ejaculation, expelling it as semen.

How to prepare for a prostate massage

First, talk with your partner about boundaries to ensure you are both comfortable with the experience. These boundaries could be anything from “I am only comfortable with digital penetration” to “I would like us to have a safe word.”

Trim and file your fingernails so you won’t scratch or tear the rectum or prostate and wash your hands. You can also opt to wear latex or nitrile gloves for an additional layer of safety and protection. While these aren’t necessary, if they help you to feel more comfortable, there’s no stigma in that.

Some men will perform an enema on themselves to remove any fecal matter from the rectum for cleanliness and peace of mind. Enema kits are readily available at any drugstore or pharmacy, but this is up to each individual. 

Use lubrication

Since the anus is incapable of self-lubrication, lube is a must before participating in solo or coupled anal play. Purchase a lubricant specifically for anal sex, as they are designed to last longer and are thicker than vaginal lubricants. 

The Pjur Backdoor Anal Water Based Lubricant is compatible with latex condoms, making it easy to switch from digital play to penetrative play, but if you prefer silicone-based lubricants, the Jo Premium Anal Silicone Lubricant could be a great addition to your bedside table because it doesn’t leave behind any sticky residue.

Not using any (or enough) lubrication can lead to rectal tears, increasing your or your partner’s risk of bacterial infections, hemorrhoids, and even an increased risk of sexually transmitted diseases.

How to perform a prostate massage

When you feel comfortable and ready, begin by masturbating yourself or your partner to reach a state of arousal. Apply lubrication around the anus and on a finger or toy. Insert it slowly into the rectum — about an inch at a time. Be sure to check in on or with your partner along the way for their level of comfort.

Once you reach about 2-5 inches inside the rectum, you should feel a rounded lump. This is the prostate. You can begin to gently massage the walnut-sized gland with the tip of your finger in either a circular or finger-wagging motion (think of using your finger in a come-here motion). You can also apply gentle pressure to the gland if your partner likes the sensation. Listen for your partner’s increased breathing and don’t feel embarrassed to ask leading questions to determine his level of pleasure.

If you’re feeling nervous for the first time, try:

1. Insert a lubricated finger into the rectum up to the first knuckle.
2. Remove the finger and apply more lubrication
3. Reinsert the finger to the second knuckle
4. Remove and apply more lubrication

Add anal sex toys  

Sometimes our hands and arms get tired. That’s where anal sex toys like the Fun Factory Duke Prostate Vibrator and the Aneros Trident Series Helix Syn Prostate Stimulator come in handy (no pun intended). They also help make it easier to massage the prostate while giving a blow or hand job to really help him see stars. 

Just remember that if you’re new to anal play, be sure to start slow and not start too hard out of the gate.

Like anything else, practice makes perfect, so if things don’t go well the first time, try and try again. Not all men are able to relax enough to enjoy their first prostate massage. Once he is assured you are comfortable and down to learn as you explore each other’s bodies, he’ll loosen up. 

Dusty’s is a retail and online store offering personal health and wellness products, marital aids, massagers, cosmetics, perfumes, bath and body products, clothing, jewelry, shoes, hats, apparel, candles, novelty items, party games and books. Have a question? We’re happy to help. And don’t worry. Our team is discreet and never shocked by any question or concern! For more tips and our latest news, check us out on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram.